Even when we're little kids we have this insatiable need to be right. We need our little selves to be validated as being correct and we puff our our chest and smile keenly and go on through the day on a cloud. Think about the little kid who sees their younger sibling doing something wrong and goes running off screaming "I'm going to tell Mom!! Awww!! I'm going to tell Mom!!" or the "Oh yeah! Yeah!" fights where one goes off crying to an adult figure who is in charge (Teacher/parent/grandparent/babysitter/etc.) saying, "He told me blah blah blah and I said nuh uh! Then HE said uh huh!" and then the point is proven as to who is right and off we go with that puffed out chest again.
As adults we encounter such people, and in the course of this week I've come across two. The first is the lady at my insurance company who is very lax and cavalier about everything who I've had to call personally twice in two weeks about an ongoing matter with our son's life insurance and dealt with the month before about car insurance. Ridiculous. Are we not paying them to assist us and represent us as an insurance agent? Am I wrong there? Especially when last week it was a matter of "I'll get back to you" and here it is a week later and I'm calling to see what's going on. Apparently she e-mailed someone who had to e-mail someone else and didn't get back to her so she just didn't think it was worth following up on or calling me back to inform me as to what was going on. Now instead of the initial $50 payment, I'm stuck with about $112 in charges and fees because of her attitude. I also hate how I've been getting the "Well.. we didn't recieve the payment yet. Let's wait to see what happens" attitude. She even went as far as to tear up the check I gave her to pay for insurance for the car and sent it back once the check that I had stopped payment on, and thus paid more money to do so, came in. Then today she accuses me of bouncing that check when it was a stop payment check and she had a perfectly good payment in her hands but tore it up and sent it back. What a dunce. Her apology today was, "Well.. it's all in the past now."
My other person is a girl who posts on a message board that I've frequented since college about or 7 years ago. Not only does she have this need to "Clarify" and "Explain" and turns everything around to where it offends her in the utmost purpose, but then she goes as far as to e-mail you about 80 times in a week, continuing to stand on her soapbox of morality, and then proclaims that she's tired of YOUR attitude and lack of whatever and tells you that she has blocked your e-mail. Whooptie do. Her need to be right is totally insatiable and irresponsible to the point where she's too blind to see how greedy she is for it, to the point of immaturity. She then turns around and instead of ignoring all posts that you make, she reads, clicks the links and responds in a totally nice manner with a zinger on the end and then tells you that it's pointless for you to post things if you don't want people to read them, when it's pointless for her to respond to things when she doesn't care for that person and doesn't want them to tell her to stop starting things when clearly you can't even tell if she's serious, genuine, or just sarcastic and rude.
Why can't people just stop feeling that they need to be right, and have the last word, and just help someone out? Take their opinions and their feelings into concern, and know that there place is to be open and honest and to also help instead of being rude and not accepting that they have responsibility in matters as well. If you're in a conversation then you're responsible for around 50% of the talking and what you say has consequences. Why are we like this?!
|
valium online valium pill dosage - drug interactions for valium